Written by Mel Hiett, Crossings Students Pastor/High School
We left you a few weeks ago pondering the thoughts of handling sin correctly in your home. We hope you have begun the process of really evaluating the role you play in your student’s walk with Christ. We must first recognize the significance our words and actions play in their lives and then take action. We want to help you with that and continue the conversation on handling sin.
A few weeks ago, my 13-year-old told me that he wanted a grilled cheese sandwich. I set out the ingredients needed to make it and said go for it. (Are you feeling tempted to judge me here? Well, please don’t; it was late after a long Sunday here at the church and my tank was on E. Teach a man to fish, am I right?! ) He looked at the food on the counter and then back at me with a confused look on his face and said, “What do I do now?”
I sat down at the table and said, “I bet you can figure it out.” Seconds later, a little voice from the other room yelled out, “Mom, that is terrible parenting; help that kid!” That, ladies and gentlemen, was my outspoken and precocious 7-year-old.
Less than 10 minutes later, both of my boys were eating grilled cheese without any help from their tired momma. They figured it out. They took the supplies they had and put their heads together, and I watched as they worked together and then with pride they ate “the best grilled cheese ever made.”
I’m going to try this attempt again, but with you. I want to set some things out on the table for you, believe in you, and then sit back and watch you pull it all together and succeed. But for you and me, it’s not a grilled cheese, it’s much more.
It is the student the Lord has entrusted to you.
Here are your ingredients:
This is a warship not a cruise ship. Fight.
I find myself saying this statement often, because I truly believe it. If you are a parent, you must realize you are on a warship, not a cruise ship. This is not the time to sit back and watch the tides go by hoping your next destination will be beautiful. This is a time for training and preparation and diligence on your part.
With every fiber inside of your body, you must find the strength to stand against settling during this time.
Fight for your children.
Prepare them for what will come when they step into the world on their own.
Question their character, speak life into it, and show them what it looks like to consider Christ with everything they do.
But, more than anything, know what lies ahead for them. They will find themselves in a war battling for their hearts, beliefs and identity. The training you are doing with them now, while they are in your home, will either prepare or confuse their endurance in the future. Dear parent, fight.
There is a sin issue. Acknowledge it.
It’s time we take a step back and look at this situation a little differently. There is a sin issue and we must acknowledge it. Our children have an enemy waiting for them to stumble. If you need some help stirring your heart up about this one, I have an idea for you.
Put your student’s name in the blank below:
Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for __________________to devour.
That is 1 Peter 5:8 (NIV). It usually says “somebody” in that blank. But I need you to read it with your student’s name it. I need you to recognize this is real, personal, and serious. Dear parent, acknowledge.
You have no choice. Roll up your sleeves.
This picture above was taken during a shooter simulation drill at a middle school. It was posted by a participant and stated that this was an uncommon thing to see. He said “Train your children to WIN instead of huddling together in a room and hoping nothing bad happens.”
I read this statement and looked at this picture with a heavy heart. What a great lesson to parents who follow Christ. We need to take this statement and adjust it like so: “Train your children to OVERCOME SIN instead of hoping nothing bad happens.” God has not only given you these children He has entrusted you with them. They are yours because He said they are, because He trusts that you will raise them up to be Kingdom Workers who are about their Father’s business.
Don’t you dare forget who gave them to you. Don’t get distracted. Don’t compromise. But more than anything, Dear parents, roll up your sleeves.
There you have it. Your ingredients to “training up your child.” I can’t do this for you or even tell you exactly how it’s done. You know your child better than anyone else. Take some time. Prepare. Plan. Listen. Observe and then do it.
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart form it. Proverbs 22:6
Crossings Students Pastor/High School