Centered Stories

Pasby Family

A Folly Marriage

By | Centered Stories, LifeCare, Local Missions, Stories, Volunteer

Pasby Family

Getting Back to Their Roots

No one would have ever dreamed that two Freshman Follies performers would now be so very active in church and loving every minute of it! Danielle and Jacob Pasby met at an event put on by the Oklahoma State University freshmen called Freshman Follies. They began dating, fell in love and married, and five and a half years later, they have two boys. Shaffer is 3 1/2 years old, and Hunter is 1 year old.

Danielle grew up in Oklahoma City and received her teaching degree from Oklahoma State University. She taught for 5 years, but now stays home with their children. Jacob grew up in Elk City, Oklahoma and was fairly active in his Methodist church, but really didn’t attend church at OSU. He is now a CPA for a small oil and gas company. Once they decided to have children, they felt it was necessary to get back into church like many of young couples who were raised in church.

Diving In

They began attending another local church but never got plugged in. Danielle said, “My stepmom, Nicole McConnell, was active in teaching children’s Sunday School and Vacation Bible School at Crossings and got Shaffer in the Mother’s Day Out program.” For 3 years, the Pasbys worshipped in the Venue with her family, but considered themselves fence sitters. “That was all we did”, said Jacob, “but now we’re 100% plugged in!”

Danielle and Jacob look forward each week to the Young Married Sunday School class taught by Laura and Terry Feix. They also attend a small group that meets on Wednesday evenings led by the Cartwrights. They met this group through the Centered group they attended last fall. “We used a workbook that had weekly topics. The study made us dive deeply into ourselves and the relationships we form,” said Jacob.

The Pasbys have learned to make church a priority through this study. They remember Marty Grubbs instructing the class participants to “stay in the Centered class until the end, even when you don’t feel like you have anything in common with other group members.” The Pasbys did stay in the class and now this group has become so very close. They do life together and go to brunch after church or watch each other’s kids. They are totally connected now.

Completely Connected

They also have worked with LifeTools on Monday evenings and use a curriculum helping give the 4 and 5 year olds Christian life tools good for coping with the ups and downs of life. They love it. Jacob ushers and will soon drive the golf cart on Sunday mornings. They have helped with the backpack drive, and Danielle really enjoys working with Safe Families. This is an evolving, very new program that helps parents with children who are going through a difficult time and attends to their needs. The church is trying to determine how to help the families in the best way possible.

Danielle and Jacob gave an example of what being in community with others is really about. Their youngest son was born with a cleft lip and palate. Before Hunter’s surgery, their small group and some church staff prayed with them. They had dinners brought to their home, and church friends sat with them in the hospital. They were blown away by the love and support!

This couple has made church an integral part of their life. Shaffer now knows the routine. “He knows that when we go to church, he gets to see his friends,” says Danielle. They have all met some great friends! “Being involved is for everyone! It all just evolves,” they agreed. “Most people just don’t realize how much God is doing through Crossings church!” said Danielle. The people at Crossings are the church, and they are thrilled to be part of it!

“A Folly Marriage” written by Misti Aduddell, Crossings Volunteer Writing Team Member.

Learning to Listen

By | Centered Stories, Stories


Yearning to Be Closer

I have been a Christian all of my adult life. During that time, I have always desired a closer relationship with Jesus and have done various things to develop that. I have attended Bible classes, and have even taught Bible classes to help me cultivate this closer experience. In my efforts to know Christ, I have read some of the greatest authors of our time: C.S. Lewis, Richard Foster, N.T. Wright, and Max Lucado, to mention a few. Each of them had valuable lessons for me. However, going through the Centered experience has helped me gain this closer relationship with Jesus more than anything I have done in my 45 years of being a Christian. Centered is structured to help people arrange their lives so they can develop the deeper Christian experience for which, I believe, we are all looking. Centered teaching you how to walk with Jesus.


Listening to Him

The most exciting experience for me through the program was learning how to listen to the Holy Spirit. In my head, I know the Holy Spirit has been with me since I became a Christian, but I did not understand or know how to listen. I have always wanted to know what it is like to hear the Holy Spirit speak to me. I mentioned to my Centered group that this was one area in which I struggled. The group immediately started praying for me, both in and outside of class. One of the experiences in Centered is a prayer experience, where we actually went off by ourselves and prayed for forty minutes. During this experience, I heard the Holy Spirit speak to me. I have to admit it felt good! Now, today, I actively look for ways the Holy Spirit is guiding me, just as Jesus promised He would. There is no doubt in my mind that God is working through Centered to help spread His Kingdom here on earth. Now that I reflect on it, I know the Holy Spirit led me to Crossings…and to Centered.


Experiencing Life in Christ

Crossings Community Church is a Christ-centered church building Christ-centered people!
This is our mission statement, but have you ever wondered what a Christ-centered person looks like? Centered is our custom-written discipleship experience that was designed for that very reason. Centered is a series of ten conversations pertaining to the essential elements of Christian life. It’s a way to explore the Christian faith in the context of community and to develop habits essential to establishing a day-to-day, conversational relationship with Christ.


This fall, Centered will be offered at three different times:

  • Sundays at 10:45 a.m.
  • Sundays at 6:00 p.m.
  • Wednesdays at 6:30 p.m.

Register for classes at


“Learning to Listen” originally published by Gary Alford, Crossings Member, in the Fall 2015 issue of Crossings Magazine.