“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”

Matthew 7:1-5


When it comes to dealing with conflicts in our relationships, there are many things that can cloud our vision and prevent us from moving toward reconciliation: hurt feelings, misinterpretation, insecurity, and fear, just to name a few. Even though it can be difficult to deal with conflict in light of these things, we need to get a clear view of conflict so we can enter into it with a healthy perspective and productive way instead of through our strained, skewed view.

God has given us three incredible resources for dealing with conflict, and we always have access to them:

  1. His Word

  2. His Spirit

  3. His people

As Christ-followers, we have the opportunity to handle conflict not in the way the world handles conflict–with our pride, egos, and selfish desires leading our decisions–but by glorifying God, honoring others, valuing our relationships, and coming to one another in humility. The way we handle conflict as Christians is one of our greatest evangelistic tools!


As we continue our exploration of conflict throughout War and Peace, Andy recommends reading Come and See by Todd Wagner. In Come and See, Wagner discusses God’s intentions for his people regarding authentic relationships, powerful transformation, and more.


Father God,
Forgive me when I fail to deal with conflict with your grace, mercy, and kindness in mind. Give me the strength and clarity to examine my motivations and my heart, and help me understand my role in any conflict I am involved in. Thank you for the opportunity to reflect your love in my relationships and thank you for your gentleness and compassion instead of anger, wrath, and resentment when I go astray.
In Jesus’ name,


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