“If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector…

“Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”

Matthew 18:15-20


When we enter into a conversation, we don’t know how it’s going to turn out, and that can lead us to approach it fearfully. Our conversations can go exactly the way we’ve rehearsed in our heads, or they can go completely awry. We can often get caught up in confrontation, but as Christians, we are called to think about conflict and deal with it the way Jesus does: with restoration and reconciliation as the ultimate goals.

If we don’t handle conflict well, both people involved are unable to move toward a stronger relationship. However, if we handle conflict with patience, grace, mercy, and humility, it glorifies God and is one of the most loving things we can do for someone. When we go to someone to restore our relationship instead of walking away from them or fighting about the issue, we are acting in obedience to God and carrying out the ministry we have been given through Jesus Christ.


Love One Another by Don McMinn is an incredible resource applicable to every stage of life. In Love One Another, McMinn provides practical application and profound insight into the “one anothers” in the Bible. Andy recommends exploring Love One Another individually or in a small group setting! Andy also recommends When to Walk Away by Gary Thomas as a helpful resource throughout our War & Peace series.


Heavenly Father,
Give me the courage to handle conflict through the lens of the Gospel, not through my own human experience and inclination. As I have the opportunity to move toward restoration in my relationships, I pray you will embolden me to choose reconciliation and to honor those who have sinned against me as you have honored me. In everything I do, help me grow closer to you and to be more like you every day.
In your precious name,


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