They disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.

Hebrews 12:10-11


We have explored how to deal with conflict throughout our War and Peace series in a way that both glorifies God and restores our relationships, but how do we respond when we’re the ones who need to hear the truth? How should we respond to correction?

God’s Word reminds us to be self-aware and approach each conversation with love and humility, but sometimes, our selfish motives, pride, and ego can cause us to lose sight of what’s important. We have to keep in mind that even if a conversation doesn’t feel very good in the moment, it is good for us. We’re encouraged to sharpen each other and speak the truth in love. Over time, these challenging conversations help us become spiritually mature, grace-giving people who demonstrate God’s love and mercy.


In addition to reading The Peacemaker by Ken Sande, Love One Another by Don McMinn, Come and See by Todd Wagner, Andy recommends exploring Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman. In his book, Chapman addresses crucial facets of relationship that can either strengthen or destroy bonds, including how to truly understand conflict and forgiveness.


Father God,
Open my heart to your will and help me understand what my response should be when others confront me with truth I may not want to hear. Help me reconcile with others and reveal your love and mercy to them. Help me remember the cross and the cost of my sin, and also remind me that you are the God of reconciliation, the God who chose mercy and grace over wrath. Help me to be kind-hearted and forgiving to others just as you are to me.
In your heavenly name,


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