As we continue our Undone series and hear from Senior Pastor Marty Grubbs about how we can have hope in our most challenging experiences, we want to help you get familiar with the resources available to you at Crossings. This week, we hear from Shari Murphy, LPC, LMFT, who serves as Pastor of Marriage and Family at Crossings.

Shari became part of the Crossings staff as a Graduate Intern in August 2005 and has been a vital part of LifeCare Ministry since. When asked why she decided to become a licensed professional counselor specializing in marriage and family, she said, “God kept giving me opportunities to walk with people on his behalf. In my role, I get to be the hands and feet of Christ speaking into the lives of others. I feel fortunate to be able to walk alongside others, teach them, and encourage them.”

As a counselor, Shari understands well the stigma surrounding counseling, support groups, and related programs. Her desire for her clients and her Crossings family is simply to begin the journey of growing and becoming healthy. “People think counseling is scary because they’re being vulnerable with another person,” she said. “The reality is counselors are kind, safe people, and, while it can be challenging, counseling isn’t typically painful.”

For those who are currently experiencing a difficult season, Shari simply hopes they don’t feel they have to walk through it alone. “God didn’t make you to live in isolation,” she said. “Scripture calls us to bear one another’s burdens. You’ll feel so much better if you allow God to comfort you by using arms that can wrap around you. Reach out. Ask for help. If you don’t know what to do, call our office and bring all your questions. We promise we don’t bite!”

“My favorite moment ever is when a person has been struggling with a really painful part of their life and together we find a different way to manage it. This typically allows them to more deeply understand God’s great love for them. Nothing is better for me to be a part of than that!” -Shari Murphy


In addition to getting familiar with all LifeCare Ministry offers, Shari recommends exploring the Apprentice series offered at Crossings, studying the Gifts of Imperfection e-course by Brené Brown, and adding the following books to your 2020 reading list: Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend; Anxious People, Anxious Church by Jack Shitama; and The Soul of Shame by Curt Thompson.


To learn more about LifeCare Ministry classes, programs, counseling, and more, visit


Throughout our Undone series, we will hear from our LifeCare counselors and Congregational Care staff and learn more about resources available at Crossings.


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Want to take your faith to the next level? Read weekly devotions written by the Crossings OKC and Edmond pastoral staff, explore teaching series classes, listen to worship music, or view sermon messages.

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