But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.

Luke 6:27-28 NIV


When relationships exist, conflict is inevitable. When we’re faced with conflict in our lives, we usually fall into one of two ways of dealing with it: avoiding it altogether or attacking the other person. Those who attack usually view conflict as something to be won, and those who avoid conflict don’t want to engage with the issue at hand.

As Christians, there is another option–one that doesn’t involve fighting or fleeing from a situation. This third option is the biblical choice; it’s restorative, full of hope, and allows you to walk away stronger and caring more deeply for the other person: reconciliation.

When our lives are characterized by unresolved conflict and broken relationships, we have little success in sharing the good news of Jesus. But, if our relationships are identified by mercy, grace, and the love of Christ, we have the opportunity to share the Gospel and to mend–and even strengthen–our relationships.


As you explore how to deal with conflict in a biblical way throughout our War and Peace series, Andy recommends reading The Peacemaker by Ken Sande. In The Peacemaker, Sande provides an extensive exploration of biblical conflict that results in unity, harmony, and is ultimately God-honoring.


Heavenly Father,
Transform us and forgive us from our sins. Help us use the uncomfortable situations we experience to glorify you, serve others, and bring the Gospel to our relationships. Open our hearts to embrace conflict as an opportunity to grow closer to others and demonstrate your love, and help us act courageously and biblically in every relationship.
In your precious name,


Throughout our War and Peace series in March, we will learn how to view conflict through the lens of the Gospel, explore resources, read Scriptures, and more.


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